Friday, February 18, 2011
Cosmos and Coffee
This morning I woke up, put on a pot of coffee, walked the dog, and did some dishes. Then Aiden woke up and came upstairs. I made him some pancakes. Our morning routine is that he eats, then gets dressed. So naturally once his pancakes were finished I told him he needed to get dressed. I jumped in the shower and when I came back out Aiden was in the living room playing with his toys donning his pajamas.
"Aiden- you need to get dressed"
The clock reads 8:10. Great. We're already going to be late.
"Aiden- hurry up- you need to get dressed" maybe i shouldn't have said anything because he fired back at me:
"OK FINE! WHATEVER! STOP YELLING AT ME!!!!"
In case you didn't know, you can't rush an autistic kid. Their head may explode. It is a subject that must be approached with calm, peaceful serenity. It must be handled with great care and mindful wording.
"AIDEN WE ARE GOING TO BE LATE! GET DRESSED!"
well a least he's downstairs in his room. He may be screaming at the top of his lungs but he's in his room going through his drawers. This is a step in the right direction.
The clock reads 8:20. School is starting.
I say to Greg, who is heading out the door for work, "psh, and drinking in the A.M. is frowned upon"
I pop my head in Aiden's room. He has pants, a shirt and a sweater on. He has his socks in his hands. He says to me in a very calm, knowing voice "i know, i know mom... hurry up, we're going to be late, i know. i'm almost ready"
We get in the car. The car clock reads 8:30. It's another 5 minutes until we get to school.
I wonder how much smoother this would have gone if instead of a cup of coffee i had
an ice cold cosmopolitan. If I got pulled over by a cop he would say:
"have you been drinking?"
and i would say:
"yes- i was trying get my kid ready for school on time"
and the cop would say
"i understand. then i suggest you look into carpooling"